5 Killer Questions You Should Ask Yourself
Do you ever ask yourself questions like these?
“What’s for dinner?”
“What should I wear to that networking event?”
“Should I bring a salad or a dessert?”
Those are all good surface level questions for day to day living.
Most of us spend all day asking ourselves questions like these.
They also keep us generally going in the same direction. Which is why I believe it is vital to ask deeper questions. Killer questions which help you live the life you have always wanted.
Here are five questions I ask my coaching clients to answer. How you answer will give you a roadmap to creating the life you will truly love.
Grab a piece of paper or your computer to record your answers. It’s essential to record your answers. Find a quiet spot and set a timer for 20-30 minutes. But fair warning. You may just be surprised by your answers. And your life may just change as a result.
On a scale of 1-10, how satisfied and content am I? This is just a snapshot of your life, but do take into account all areas. Alternatively, if you’re a high achiever, choose 8 areas of your life that you want to assess. (work, recreation, spiritual, personal growth, spouse, children, living environment, wellness, etc.) Don’t judge your number. Just use it as information. Your honest assessment is the only way you can make adjustments. Do your best to be honest and kind with yourself.
What’s going on right now, that’s keeping me from a full 10 life? This is where grace-filled honesty continues to play a key role. In no particular order, brain dump all things that you think are holding you back from living a level 10 life. Are there things in your environment that are constantly frustrating you? Negative thoughts continually ping ponging in your head? A pattern in work demands that could be addressed? What’s currently going on that’s holding you back? How long have they been going on?
What have you already tried to remedy those challenges? Maybe you’ve been listening to podcasts about work life balance. Or you’ve read some books to help with communication. Perhaps you’ve even talked with a therapist about those looping thoughts that seem to be in the driver seat. List all the actions you’ve tried in an effort to level up your life. And, if THIS is the first time you’ve even given it a thought that you can actually do something to improve your life… BRAVO!!! Welcome to the exciting world of personal development. You're going to be so happy you’re here!
Imagine 3 years from now. You and I are sitting down to meet for coffee and you’re telling me about all the things in your life that are making you happy. List all of the things that are happening which make you happy, satisfied and completely content. Do your best to stay in the future tense with this one. Envision in your mind’s eye what a perfectly content life for you looks like in three years. Can you picture it? Perhaps you can even smell it. Can you touch it? For example, what activities are you doing with your family? Where are you living? What clothes might you be wearing in this awesome life of yours? Do you smell anything in particular… like the ocean, or a campfire? Who’s around you? Who’s NOT around? Spend a good chunk of time really dreaming about your ideal life because this is where the gold is.
Now, what’s important about all of this? You’ve just done some deep work and with it you’ve uncovered some pretty neat truths about you. So, what’s important for you to remember about yourself from doing this exercise? Given your answers from #4, what’s something you know you need to DO, in order to create a more satisfying life? Alternatively, what’s something you know that you need to DELETE in order to be more content?
All of your answers here are important. But, none of them will impact your life positively if you don’t take action. I encourage you to do two things in the next week.
DO one thing.
And DELETE one thing.
Creating a life you love takes time and intentional action. Give yourself grace along the way.
Take it one step at a time. Ask the right questions. You know yourself best.
Just like Glinda said to Dorothy, “You’ve always had the power, my dear. You just had to learn it for yourself.”
The answers are within you.
Getting clear on these 5 killer questions is the starting point.
Click your heels and enjoy the life you truly want.
Knowing what to do is different from executing that knowledge.
Often, we need support.
Someone who will walk with us, talk us through the tough spots, and help us get there.
Someone who's been there, is now on the other side, and has figured out how to avoid the potholes going forward.
I'd love to offer you the perspective you may need... to be the piece that's been missing.
Schedule a call with me here. Or simply reply to this email.
You’ve got this!!!
Hugs,
Lisa